It’s not uncommon to feel lonely during early sobriety or even years into sobriety. It was certainly the case with me. Loneliness is a negative emotion and can feel very isolating at times but remember there is a difference between being alone and loneliness.
I feel there are two main situations that can cause me to feel lonely.
- Not talking to, or seeing friends and family very often or in a long while.
- Being surrounded by people at a party or gathering, but I don’t feel I can relate to anyone there or I don’t feel understood, cared for, or heard.
I believe both these scenarios can cause loneliness as there is a lack of connection.
In early sobriety it is not uncommon to feel lonely. Think about it, you lose some drinking buddies, you don’t go to parties that may jeopardise your fragile early sobriety. You may have lost friends due to your previous drinking antics. You may not have anyone to confide in who understands your decision to quit drinking or you may be hold up at home getting your bearings, trying to figure out this whole sobriety thing. Whatever your reason for feeling lonely, I think this article can help.
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Due to the Coronavirus outbreak, we are spending more time at home than ever before and I want to share with you my top tips for staying sober while stuck at home.
A lot of us view exercise, recovery meetings and visiting places with friends and family as an important part of our mental health and sobriety. So being asked to stay at home and avoid public places and gatherings is a big disruption to our everyday lives and therefore a disruption to our sobriety and overall wellbeing.
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Today is International Self-Care Day. It’s a great reminder to take some time out of your busy life just for you.
Before you start saying, “I don’t have time” or “I cannot possible justify taking time out for just me.” I need to remind you of all the times you sat wasted in front of the TV drunk or laid up in bed with an awful hangover.
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One thing I know I need to work on is giving myself permission to do less or even nothing.
Yesterday, I was busy doing a few jobs around the house and home schooling the children. Oh, and I went for a jog. By 4.30pm I didn’t fancy doing anything else but it also felt wrong to just chill out and do nothing.
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Adding these tips to your everyday toolbox will enable you to deal with the craziness that life throws at you, without reaching for the bottle.
It’s too easy to lose focus of what’s important. We have to remember that looking after our own wellbeing is crucial to achieving a happy sober you.
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Whilst being on lockdown I have been trying to put together a website. I have to admit it’s been hard and I have made many mistakes along the way. There have been times when I have wanted to pick up the laptop and hurl it across my office in an irrational display of rage.
When I come across something I cannot do and, its not obvious how to do it, I get really angry inside, then emotional. I just hate making mistakes.
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Drinking During Lockdown.
Before getting sober, my drinking brain would have used this current situation as an excuse to drink more. Losing my drinking restrictions like school pick-ups, work, visiting relatives, etc… means I would have drunk in excess of my already excessive normal.
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Over this Lockdown Easter Weekend it has felt hard not seeing my parents and my sisters and their families.
Normally, I would have planned a visit to my sisters over the Easter Holidays to catch up and swap Easter Eggs with the children. My parents would have been invited to our house on Easter Sunday for lunch. There would have been drives out for family walks or even a weekend away somewhere.
However, during lockdown none of this can happen. I don’t want to dwell on what I cannot do though. That is too easy and does not actually help me. When I find things which are out of my control, I try to focus on what is in my control.
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In my first year of Sobriety I went to AA for a couple of months. This is where I came across the Serenity Prayer for the first time.
These simple words resonated with me immediately upon hearing them. Their meaning hit me somewhere deep inside and I have never forgotten them since.
When I find myself facing a difficult situation and getting overwhelmed, I quietly say these words to myself.
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As you may know, last February 2019, I left my Government office job to work in a smaller school office, with less responsibility.
I felt at the time it was the right thing to do. I had been unhappy in my job for a while. Even after getting sober, the job did not improve. Though I will admit, it was more manageable, being sober.
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