Due to the school closures here in the UK, I am on Day 3 of home schooling the kids. So far, it’s going okay. (though it is only Day 3). Modern technology means their schools have set homework online and they have a great choice of subjects to choose from. I’m so pleased I didn’t have to come up with their school work myself, Phew!
The tricky part for me is resisting the urge to compete with all those parents out there who are jumping on social media to share idyllic pictures of their children studying and sharing copies of their unrealistic home-school timetables.
I have to remind myself that I don’t need to compete. This is not a competition. I do not need to justify what I am doing nor do I need anyone’s approval for how I am doing it.
I’m going to concentrate on what me and my family need. Comparing myself to others is not helpful. What is helpful, is reminding myself that they are doing their thing and I am going to continue doing my thing. Both ways are fine. No need to compete.
Change affects us all and we need to be patient with ourselves while we work out what we wish to achieve and how we are going to go about it. It’s all too easy to look at what other people are doing and end up feeling inferior; like we should be doing more!
I believe it’s helpful to give ourselves time to adapt to the new way of things. This is definitely not a time to put pressure on ourselves or expect too much of ourselves or others.
It reminds me of early sobriety. When we need to keep things easy and not commit to too much. It is not sustainable to stop drinking and lose weight and learn a new language all at the same time. In the beginning we need to keep things simple, learn how to adapt to the change and then slowing add in new things. That is the way we succeed and thrive in early sobriety.
I am learning to be patient at home; to give myself and my family time to adapt to our new routine. I’m going to check in with the kids to ask what they think is working and I’m not going to have unrealistic expectations of them. Things don’t have to be perfect while we are figuring this out. We’ll keep things simple for now, change them if needs be and add new things in gradually.
With a greater appreciation for all the teachers out there x